Thank You to the Bully

From Bullied to Empowered using DBT

GenPsych, in collaboration with John Mopper from Blueprint Mental Health, will be offering its free DBT in-services for staff and/or students in the fall and winter.

This presentation, “Thank You to the Bully” takes a different approach to coping with (and even learning to appreciate) bullies through DBT skills. It can be presented to staff as an in-service or to a large or small group of students. See below for full description.

For more information or to schedule this presentation, contact John Mopper, LAC at or call (908) 256-6965.


I know that the topic of bullying has been at the forefront of school counseling and mental health in general over the past few years. But seriously, how many presentations and trainings can we really have on this topic? I’m sure that at this point your fingers are calloused from all of the HIB reports you have had to fill out. Well, I’d like to offer just one more presentation on bullying, and I can assure you that this one is definitely not like anything you have seen so far.

Using DBT as the model, “Thank You to the Bully” will discuss how our handling of conflict with others and how we overcome obstacles in our lives are the foundation of the building of a person’s character. We will discuss finding gratitude for the bully, for that bully is offering us an opportunity to find strength and power within ourselves and affording us the ability to build resilience within to deal with what the future may throw at us.

The following 5 modules will be covered in a 1-1.5 hour presentation:

  1. Mindfulness: Am I really being bullied?

  2. Interpersonal Effectiveness: How to be assertive and get what you want

  3. Distress Tolerance: How to avoid doing something impulsive and stupid

  4. The Middle Path: Compassion for the bully/Behaviorism

  5. Emotion Regulation: Checking the facts

This presentation can be offered as an in-service to counselors and teachers as a different approach to treating students who are being bullied. It can also be presented to a large group of students or a smaller group of students who may present a greater need for this information.

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